Parish Prayer Day Friday 20th November 2020
Proposed Theme: Remembering our beloved dead
The Joy of Love: Pope Francis
I can understand the anguish felt by those who have lost a much-loved person, a spouse with whom they have shared so much. Jesus himself was deeply moved and began to weep at the death of his friend (Lazarus). (254)
Ordinarily the grieving process takes a fair amount of time. The entire process is filled with questions: about the reasons why a loved one had to die, about all the things that might have been done, about what a person experiences at the moment of death. With a sincere and patient process of prayer and interior liberation, peace returns. (255)
It consoles us to know that those who die do not completely pass away, and faith assures us that the risen Lord will never abandon us……. Indeed, “our loved ones are not lost in the shades of nothingness, hope assures us that they are in the good strong hands of God”. (256)
- Every family has people whom they love who have died. November is the month when we deliberately remember them and pray for them
- These memories can be painful because of the loss that is experienced or because of the difficulty of forgiving a loved one.
- These memories are essential because so much of what we are and have has come from these people whom we love and who love us.
- The death of a wife or husband can often be the most traumatic loss. Nothing is ever the same without this person who has been so much part of the hopes and dreams of life and so much part of the love experience of companionship.
- The death of a daughter or son is certainly heart-breaking for parents. This is true whether it is the death of a baby in the womb through miscarriage, or of a small child, or of a daughter or son later in life. Sometimes these deaths can be tragic ones through accident or suicide. Parents are very often heart-broken for the rest of their lives.
- We all experience the trauma of the death of a mother or father. The depth of this pain can surprise us.
- When a sister of brother dies we grieve deeply also, although at times people are shocked or guilty at how quickly they get over it by comparison with other deaths.
- Our grandparents are also very dear to us and when they die we can be devastated. They were so much part of our growing up, of our maturing, of our comfort in life.
- And then there are our aunts and uncles, and our cousins. Depending on how close to these we have been we can feel sadness and even distress.
- These are all the people who make up our family life. It is they who are most likely to cause us real sorrow when they die. Of course we have close friends too that we will never forget. That sorrow is a very personal one that is not experienced in the same way by other family members.
The people who honour their dead are people who believe in eternal life.